We all break into this world with an unparalleled amount of self-confidence. It starts when we’re little: we take our first steps, fall on our tiny, fragile faces, and we muster up the courage to get back up and try again. As we grow, our self-confidence wavers and can rise or fall like the tides, all dependent upon on our individual life experiences.
And there’s nothing like a job interview to test even the most fearless person’s self-confidence. In this arena, everyone is bound to experience more than a few unnerving jitters, wishing they had their courageous toddler self as an invisible sidekick. Until we find a way to make this possible, we’ve put together a detailed list of courage-boosting armament for you to use at your next job interview – and for life in general!
The Confident Posture and Power Posing
The big brains at Harvard have relentlessly studied posture and its link to the brain for years, concluding that having good posture can improve your confidence, mood, and overall health. On the flip side, slumping and slouching can generate negative thoughts and memories, firing up stress hormones in your body. For a potent backbone-boost, power poses (poses meant to demonstrate confidence regardless of whether or not the person in that body actually feels confident) both increase testosterone levels and reduce cortisol, the stress hormone.
In the days leading up to your interview, be mindful of how you’re sitting, how you use your hands to speak, and your movements in general. Demonstrating confident posture long before your interview can be an added security blanket, and directly before your interview, sneak into a bathroom stall and shell out a few power poses. Bring all that might with you into your interview.
Practice Makes Perfect
Even though you can’t kidnap your potential new boss’s list of questions, you likely have a general idea of what your interviewer may throw your way – and you can never be too prepared. When you’re at home, write down a few questions and practice your answers in a mirror – while smiling. Speaking out loud can help mitigate any mishaps in pitch or fumbled words, and smiling will flood you with positive, confident feelings. Remember to not leave your pearly whites behind when you’re in your interview – the question-askers always appreciate and remember an authentic smile.
The “I’m Worth It” Roadmap
Luck is not the likely reason that you landed an interview in the first place. There are reasons why you’re applying for this job and there are reasons someone decided to give you an interview.Clearly, you possess skills that got you this far, and your past achievements have ferried you into the hot seat – and that’s worth noting.
And by noting, we mean for you to make some notes. Dig out a clean piece of paper, write in the center “reasons why I should get my dream job,” then proceed to come up with no less than 100 reasons why you should take the throne – no matter how silly or repetitive. In writing out these tiny confidence-boosting tidbits, you’re actually rewiring your brain and drilling into your neurons that you don’t just want this job; the job wants you. And feeling like you’re worth it is the best way to walk into an interview.
Dress for Success
When we laze around all day in sweatpants and old t-shirts, we don’t necessarily feel like the most productive or elite members of society. But if we choose to play a little dress up, even on a normal day, clothing can be a big confidence-booster. Tucked away in every one of our closets and drawers is a pair of power pants and a shirt so flaunting that we feel like a million bucks walking down the street. Even if these garments aren’t quite interview-worthy, it’s time for some shopping to equip you with a new, bold look.
Expectations can be the death of us, and they stir up unnecessary anxiety. Expecting that our partner comes home with flowers every night or expecting traffic to be perfect on our way to work is unrealistic, and when we fixate wholly on these things and they don’t happen, they can crush us.
If you’re going into an interview for your dream job, be focused, be prepared and be confident, but don’t give that position every ounce of your energy. If it doesn’t work out, it likely wasn’t meant to be. The important factor is that you go in, do the interview, and participate in a valuable experience that provides you with some type of lesson that you can blossom from. This in and of itself is priceless. And guess what? Every life experience, every interview, and every interaction is another notch in your belt for good things to come.